“Knock knock knock”? Jonah asks me.
This is not the beginning of a joke, but a request. He is asking me to knock on his head. I knock three or four times on spots all over his noggin; he giggles and says “fast!” So I knock faster, using both hands to create light little rhythms. Jonah loves to be knocked on the head – what can I say? Knick knack paddywack.
He also loves other kinds of sensory pressure. Some folk on the autism spectrum are really sensitive to touch and can’t tolerate certain textures or pressures, but Jonah craves them all. He wants to cuddle so close that he melts into the shape of you. He wants tight squeezes and massaging pressure on his shoulders, neck, and back. He wants to reach out from the backseat of the car and gently place his fingertips on my shoulders, sometimes pulling as if to gather me closer. Sometimes if he is freaking out in the car, I calm him by pressing my hand on his knee. (This technique got us from Cape Cod all the way back to Albany when Jonah had such a hard time keeping it together after vacation).
“Huck? Huck?” he asks every time he’s done something wrong and wants to get back in your good graces. It’s his unspoken apology, overused and often insincere. You’re not sorry, you little shit, I think sometimes. You just want a hug.
Worse is “up up up?” – meaning he wants me to pick him up and carry him, usually from the car (where he has just flipped out) to the house (which is where he’ll end up, specifically in his room). But this is where I draw the line. The kid is eight and a half, for the love of God, and though he’s thin and lanky like his mama, he’s still at least a good 50 pounds and liable to break my back.
So I walk heavily, practically limping, Jonah hanging and clutching onto me; I’ve grown a massive, screaming tumor from my midsection and my mission is to deliver it inside. It’s like we’re playing that three legged race game at the elementary school Olympics. So, mushed together in a human blob, we walk as one up the stairs and into the house.
Where he’ll likely ask for a hug – and later, once he’s calmed down, “knock knock knock?”
The Never Normal 
How lovely that Jonah loves a hug! My sister’s son has always shrugged off close contact (he has Asperger’s among other problems).
Carrying a child of Jonah’s size is extremely difficult, I do sympathise.
Many times in the past I have walked the length and breadth of the house with a toddler clinging to my ankle/knee/waist which must have made a comical sight as I dragged one leg plus its additional weight around with the vacuum cleaner or a duster or the laundry.
Mothers just get on with things I suppose and a hug at the end of it all has to make up for all that inconvenience.
I love the pictures you post of Jonah – guaranteed to make me smile on a dull day!
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